Wednesday, September 02, 2009

Lessons from Burnt Toast...

Shared by a gentle lady who cares....

When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school.

I don't remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite! When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the toast. And I'll never forget what he said. 'Baby, I love burned toast.'

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night, and I asked him if he really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, 'Debbie, your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she's real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone! You know, life is full of imperfect things...and imperfect people. I'm not the best housekeeper or cook.'

What I've learned over the years is that learning to accept each other's faults - and choosing to celebrate each other's differences - is the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship. Burnt toast should never be a deal breaker. We could extend this to any relationship in fact - as understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship!!"

Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket - but into your own.

Food for thought - "People will always forget what you do, and they will always forget what you say, but they will never, ever forget the way you make them feel."


Red Lavender said...

Hi brother,
This story touches my heart.
Love is about learning to love someone you found, buy accepting his/her weakness, this is where not many dwell into.
I accepted Ching Ai's as a package.

Robert Foo said...

Hi sister,

I am sure Ching Ai would love to hear this from your mouth.

Just Me said...

This touches my heart as well. I have a difficultly in recognizing when I am setting standards when choosing who I am going to date and when I take those standards to an extreme that I am not celebrating differences.

Robert Foo said...

Hi my dear LMc,

Set your ideal qualities of your future mate from your past experiences and he would appear. Have strong belief over yourself.