Wednesday, February 29, 2012

To be trusted...


Would like to continue to write more on Integrity & Honesty today.

This morning I took my early morning breakfast alone at an Indian Muslim restaurant. We call them Mamak who is good at making good tea and served with delicious Indian bread. I sat outside the shop with many tables beside the frontage. As usual after the meals, the customers would pay over the cash counter inside the shop. No bill was written by the waiters. We just had to tell to the cashier what we had ordered and he would charge accordingly. In fact, the cashier didn't even know what we had ate and drank. He believed and trust our words. We could have cheated him.

However if you patronize the Chinese coffee shop, make sure your cash is ready when the food is served. Once the order is taken by the waiters, they would pick up the drinks and food from the kitchen. Before they serve the customers, they have to pay cash to their boss first, who is sitting inside the air con cash counter. All the workers and waiters are foreigners. After the cash is paid over the cash counter, they would come around to the customers, served and at the same time collect the rightful cash from us again. Meaning... You pay before you eat!

The different between the Mamak and the Chinese is, Mamak trusts all his customers, immaterial of what races. Not the Chinese. Though I'm a Chinese myself, I speak the truth. Chinese tends to be a bit shrewd and cunning. They don't trust any one. Being shrewd, they make sure their waiters pay first for the customers. Being  cunning, they collect cash first before the customers could even taste and enjoy their meals. I think they have no integrity. When one is not honest, you might distrust another human being.

I really admire this Mamak for being so kind to their customers. Their way of business is, enjoy your food first  and pay me later. I guess why they are different is mainly because of their cultural brought up together with a strong sense of religious belief. These two effective groundings create a great trust in themselves for others.

Food for thought - "To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved" - George MacDonald quotes

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Integrity & Honesty............

Yesterday I visited a single mother, a client I hadn't seen for quite sometime. Through her one hand, she raised her one son and a daughter, both seems to be obedient children who are doing well in their studies too. I praised and congratulated the mother who immediately responded by saying it was God who helped them. Her voice could tell she is a God fearing person. I felt good for her as well.

The purpose of my visit was she wanted to seek my medical insurance advices. Recently her own younger sister passed away due to stomach and colon cancer. There was no indication of  pain and symptom, and by the time the sister realised it, she was already at the four stage of this dreadful disease. Though a needed surgery was done, she died few days later. Now the older sister is afraid. She was suggested by some friends to perform an endoscopy on herself  just in case. In our country an Endoscopy isn't cheap. She asked me whether she could use our medical insurance to pay for her personal medical investigation. 

My explanation. Our medical insurance could be utilized only when one is sick, and not for any personal medical check up. Unless a doctor could confirm the client has to be admitted and hospitalization is required. My client interrupted me to say that many of her friends had made use of their medical insurances to get free medical check up in various hospitals. I was frank to relate... Yes! It's only if doctors and clients abused the benefits by not telling the truth to the insurance companies. In your case, I'm sorry you can't because you are a healthy person and not sick. I know the mother here wasn't happy with my statement.

Out of the blue, the lady asked me what religion I belong to.

Interesting question! When I was a little boy at twelve, my mother being an illiterate and a Taoist, who could not teach me her belief, she encouraged me to go to a nearby church to study Sunday Bible class. Without fail I was learning the Bible for four years, scoring high marks on every examination then. Later when I was around at my early twenties, I went to a Thai Temple to understand the Buddhism teaching. That took me another five years. Turning thirty, I met another wisdom Indian Guru who was keen to take me as his God Son. He taught me his religion, Hinduism with an opened heart. Around this period, I was given a Holy Quran in English Version which I kept faithfully but never read it. It was when I shifted house about 15 years ago, I accidentally found this book in my locker again. Without discrimination I read the entire Quran with so much understanding of today. What religion I'm? I had read all these religious holy books, non taught me how to cheat. They only taught me to be honest and be faithful in all my dealings. I sincerely hope my good client understood my implication of this story.


Food for thought - "Integrity is telling myself the truth. And Honesty is telling the truth to other people" - Spencer Johnson quote.

Monday, February 27, 2012

Women make a lot of different.....

Ali has an Indian Muslim restaurant. He employed all foreign Indian male workers. Business wasn't good and he was quite worried over it. While I was taking my usual afternoon tea there, Ali seeks my advice on his shop's problems.

I was frank to reveal my observation to him. Though the shop had many workers, they didn't have the right attitude to work. There were no smile on their faces, and non showed their enthusiasm and interest over their serving. Instead of attracting customers who patronized, they caused more dissatisfaction than satisfaction. The down falls was simply the lousy services rendered.

Ali asked, "Any suggestion to correct and improve the situation Robert".

I responded with a big YES! Your men are feeling miserable because there is something missing in their heart. The fastest way to change their behaviour and attitude is, bring in two or more female workers, especially the younger one. No man can live without woman. More so these foreign workers have left home for so long, when they could be missing their families. With women of their kind working along should let them feel good.

Two months later, Ali managed to engage another three girls from India to work together with his men. He could not believe his eyes! The moment the girls came, all the men changed their attitude and behaviour immediately. They are more caring, responsible, full of joy on their faces, willing to walk their extra miles and no more complaint. The girls have brightened their thought for sure. Not long, the business shot up instantly. Women really make a lot of different. 

How true.."What would men be without women? Scarce, sir, mighty scarce." -- Mark Twain

Sunday, February 26, 2012

Irish Birth Control......




Sunday's Laugh.....

Mrs Donovan was walking down O'Connell Street in Dublin when she met up with Father Flaherty.
The  Father said, 'Top o' the mornin' to ye! Aren't ye Mrs. Donovan and didn't I marry ye and yer hoosband  two years ago?'    
She replied, 'Aye, that ye did, Father.'
The Father asked, 'And be there any wee little ones yet?'
She replied, 'No, not yet, Father.'
The Father said, 'Well now, I'm going to Rome next week and I'll light a fertility candle for ye and yer  hoosband.'
Some  years later they met again. The Father asked, 'Well now, Mrs. Donovan, how are ye these days?'
She replied, 'Oh, very well, Father!'
The Father asked, 'And tell me, have ye any wee ones yet?'
She replied, 'Oh yes, Father! Two sets of twins and six singles, ten in all!'
The  Father said, 'That's wonderful! And how is yer loving hoosband doing?'
She  replied, 'E's gone to Rome to blow out yer fookin candle'.


Saturday, February 25, 2012

Wives yesterday, today and tomorrow...


A newly married husband saved his wife's number on his mobile as "My life"

After one year of marriage he changed the number to "My Wife"

After 2 years of marriage he changed the number to "Home"

After 5 years of marriage he changed the number to "Hitler"

After 10 years of marriage he changed the number to "Wrong Number

 "Life's tough.  Its even tougher if you're Stupid !!"

Can this happen to you???

Friday, February 24, 2012

Are we spoiling our children???

Things have changed...

When I left school to seek for employment, the only way to move around was by buses. After working for a few months, I bought an old second hand motorbike with money I saved. It took me two years before I could buy and replaced the bike to another second hand car. It was a Ford Anglia and I'm sure not many youngsters would have heard of this model. Right? That car was my pride because I used my own money to buy.

Today is a different story. The minute a child has finished his or her education, they expect the fathers to fund and purchase a car for them before they could even secure a job. Mind you! A car and not a bike. Preferable a brand new one. An old car is considered as unfashionable and nothing to show to their friends.

Why those days my dad didn't buy the motor bike for me? I wasn't that lucky because he had left me much earlier than expected. But! Even if he was still around then, I would not have requested my parents to assist me. It was the obligation and responsibility of the children to fence for themselves. Whereas today, it's the obligation and duty of the parents to help their children. The reason is quite simple. Parents love their children much more. Whether is good or bad! You tell me please.....

Would you agree? Sometime by not assisting, you are helping the other person. Or sometime by assisting, you are not actually helping. How lah?

Thursday, February 23, 2012

System down...


Monday night was a very frustrating evening. As usual without fail, I would write a title for the next day's posting. With inspiration and passion, I wrote a nice story for you guys to read. I was sure you would giggle along the way when you read it.  Almost completing and about to post it, the Internet System was down and I realized my laptop hangs as well. Oh! My God! My entire writing just disappeared right in front of my eyes. No way I could save them. My heartaches and my mind was upset. To write the first time is easy but to rewrite the same composition again could be difficult. Luckily my third son Caldwin was around. Took him two days to repair my working partner, the laptop.

Yes! I learned something from here....

When I was a little child, "I cried because I had no shoe, until I saw a man who had no leg".
Today, "I almost cried because my laptop broke down, until I saw a man who has no hand".

Monday, February 20, 2012

Love your JOB, no matter what you do ...

At my age I still do well in my job. The reasons are; I'm proud of my career, I like what I'm doing and I have mastered my job. If you only work because of the monetary return, I bet you won't last long in your job. The above picture speaks itself.

My strongest belief - "Do What You Love and The Money Will Follow"

Sunday, February 19, 2012

Mr. Postman.....



SIMPLY HILARIOUS
One Monday morning a postman is walking the neighborhood on his usual route. As he approaches one of the homes he noticed that both cars were in the driveway. His wonder was cut short by Bob, the homeowner, coming out the front door, stepping around empty beer and liquor bottles. 

"Wow, Bob, looks like you guys had one hell of a party last night!" the postman says. 

Bob, in obvious pain, replies -- "Actually we had it Saturday night. This is the first I have felt like moving since 4 am Sunday morning."

"We had about fifteen couples from around the neighborhood over for some weekend fun and it got a bit wild. Hell, we got so drunk around midnight that we started playing Who Am I?" 

"Is that a game?" the postman asks, all curious. "How do you play that?" 

Bob replies --- "Well, all the guys go in the bedroom and we come out one at a time with a sheet covering us and only our 'privates' showing through a hole in the sheet."

"Then the women try to guess who it is."

The postman laughs and says --- "Damn, I'm sorry I missed all that fun."

"Well, that's why I came out to talk to you," Bob says. "You better lie low for a few days, since your name came up seven times and many of the guys are looking for you."

Saturday, February 18, 2012

As dad, I replied...........



I took my son to the mall the other day to buy some new shoes. 

We decided to grab a bite at the food court.
 

My son noticed I was watching a teenager sitting next to him.
 

The teenager had spiked hair in all different colors - green, red,
orange, and blue.
 

I kept staring at her.
 

The teenager kept looking and would find me staring every time.
 

When the teenager had had enough, she sarcastically asked:
"What's the matter old man, never done anything wild in your life?"
 

Knowing myself, my son quickly swallowed his food so that he would not choke on my response;  He knew I would have a good one!
 

In classic style I responded without batting an eyelid ....
 

"Got drunk once and had sex with a parrot. I was just wondering if you might be my kid."
 

Friday, February 17, 2012

Where to seek sincere advices?


A good friend had given some piece of advices to a couple. Not sure whether his advices were right and appropriate, seeking my wisdom he asked to verify whether his suggestions were justifying.

I believe... All advices and suggestions are always pure and logical, when are given without direct or indirect interest over the matter. Is only when we have some form of interest or intention over the seeking, the advices might be one sided. 

So if you happened to have a problem and need consultation, seek assistance from someone who is neutral and understanding. I'm sure he is going to be fair, sincere and honest to you. Try me!

Thursday, February 16, 2012

Prostitutes in Malaysia....


Another hot news in our local media... Cheap flights bringing in Chinese prostitutes.

LOW air fares and direct flights from 14 destinations in China are among the contributing factors for the influx of Chinese women into the country, reported China Press.

The daily quoted a Bukit Aman anti-vice, gaming and secret societies spokesman as saying that these women who had valid travel documents and student visas, blended in Chinese-populated areas with ease as the food, living environment, language and dialects were similar to those in China.

“Besides locals, foreigners also prefer them due to lower charges. Each sex session costs between RM150 and RM200,” reported the daily.

The news confirmed that there is good market for these Chinese prostitutes in our country. Is high time our women here have to learn, on how to discourage our men from seeking the services of these foreigners. 

Perhaps these three Golden Rules might be of help. There is an old traditional advice for women.. "How to be an effective and a good wife?"  One who is an obedient woman in the house. She takes care of the young and    respect the old. That's the first rule. Beside being a home maker, she is prepared  and willing to learn to be fashionable and knowledgeable a lady. In look she is always attractive and in mind she is intelligent. This is the second rule. The third rule is important... What other women could do outside, she has to be even better. Be a romantic lover and be a sensational sex partner too.

Most house wives could have mastered Rule Number One. But failing to accept rule two and three, the chances are they might loose their men to those tempting professional prostitutes who are out to lure the unsatisfied husbands. 

Joseph Conrad quotes - "Being a woman is a terribly difficult task, since it consists principally in dealing with men".



Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Strictly for men to read....

My sweetheart sent me a special Valentine's message yesterday. I'm not supposed to share with everyone. But the fact is... I'm not a selfish person, I feel all men should read these interesting rules posted above. I'm afraid the words are a little small and you guys have to read them near. If you can't read them, then I think you are definitely too old to know. This message is meant strictly for the men only. So if you are one woman who is reading this post, I wonder whether you agree these rules applied. If you could laugh over this message and not the least be angry with me, I believe you are just as understanding a woman like my sweetheart. Yes! Ladies and Gentlemen what have you got to say now?

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Life is an Art: Magical moments....

Life is an Art: Magical moments....

A kiss for Valentine Day....


Fifty years ago, when I was a young teenager, I knew nothing about Valentines Day was. Today if I forget 14th Feb, all my dears, honeys, darlings and one sweetheart that I know would be very upset with me.

I might not know what other part of the world think and feel about the important of Valentines Day, but for sure I could tell you a bit of how our Malaysian react.

To the typical China man or business man, Valentines Day is a commercial day. They have an opportunity to make more and sell more in products related to this occasion. One rose could be sold for ten dollars, while other day could be so cheap. All the restaurants are fully booked in advance, and couples won't mind to pay for whatever the asking price for the romantic dinning. 

The young girls who have got no boyfriend, would wish a Valentino might appear from no where. For the brave and naughty young boys, today is the day when they might approach the girls whom they have in mind. 

The young ladies in love, expect to be pampered and showered with more attention today. And for the gentlemen, you better get ready with all those roses, gifts and presents. 

Talk to the older grannies, they wish their old mates could still remember them or at least to hold their hands. Or if the old partners are romantic enough to say... "I love you!", all these grand mums will be the happiest women in town. So sad! These old men have all lost their jest of live. They rather be at the coffee shop sipping coffee and talking grand mother stories with all their old gangs instead.

What about me? To me Valentine day is a day of love. A day when I should be sharing my emotion, love and concern to everyone I know. If my parents were still around, I will tell them that I love them. To my family, they are my roses in heart. To all my female friends, they are all my dears in mind. To all my male friends, they are always very important to me. To all my readers, you are my inspirator and motivator. To my little darling, she is my diamond forever. I might not be able to be with all of you today but I can write to let all of you to read. I love you. Happy Valentine Day to everyone of you there.

Monday, February 13, 2012

Too dependable on maids....




This was in the paper's headline... Indonesian maids will arrive next month, says Papa. All is in order for the arrival of the first batch of Indonesian maids expected next month, The Foreign Maid Agencies Association (Papa) guaranteed.


The above news could be a joy for most working mothers here. Last year I had a lady's client who was crying furiously when I visited her home. She cried because her only maid left her after a quarrel in the house. She could not believe until the maid disappeared with all her belongings. She cried because she did not know how    to take care of her own big house. She doesn't know how to cook either. The children would be unattended and the clothing would be unwashed. Though she is a great lawyer in town, she never lives like a mother to her own home. A successful corporate lady but too dependable on a working maid. Believe me! There are many ladies out there who could be falling into the same trap like my friend here. So sad! Ladies have forgotten their original roles as a woman. 


Sunday, February 12, 2012

Life Can Begin at 50/60/70....


1. Never say ‘I am aged':
There are three ages, chronological, biological, and psychological. The first is calculated based on our date of birth; the second is determined by the health conditions and the third is how old you feel you are. While we don't have control over the first, we can take care of our health with good diet, exercise and a cheerful attitude. A positive attitude and optimistic thinking can reverse the third age.  

 2. Health is wealth:
If you really love your kids and kin, taking care of yourself and your  health should be your priority. Thus, you will not be a burden to them. Have an annual health check-up and take the prescribed medicines regularly. Do take health insurance cover.  

3. Money is important:
Money is essential for meeting the basic necessities of life, keeping good health and earning family respect and security. Don't spend beyond your means even for your children. You have lived for them all through and it is time you enjoyed a harmonious life with your spouse. If your children are grateful and they take care of you, you are blessed. But never take it for granted.  

4. Relaxation and recreation:
The most relaxing and recreating forces are a healthy religious attitude, good sleep, music and laughter. Have faith in God, learn to sleep well, love good music and see the funny side of life. 

  5. Time is precious:
It is almost like holding a horse's reins. When they are in your hands, you can control them. Imagine that every day you are born again. Yesterday is a cancelled cheque. Tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is ready cash — use it profitably. Live this moment.  

 6. Change is the only permanent thing:
We should accept change — it is inevitable. The only way to make sense out of change is to join the dance. Change has brought about many pleasant things. We should be happy that our children are blessed.  

 7. Enlightened selfishness:
All of us are basically selfish. Whatever we do, we expect something in return. We should definitely be grateful to those who stood by us. But our focus should be on the internal satisfaction and happiness we derive by doing good to others, without expecting anything in return 

8. Forget and forgive:
Don't be bothered too much about others' mistakes. We are not spiritual enough to show our other cheek when we are slapped in one. But for the sake of our own health and happiness, let us forgive and forgetthem. Otherwise, we will be only increasing our BP.  

 9. Everything has a reason. A purpose:
Take life as it comes. Accept yourself as you are and also accept others for what they are. Everybody is unique and right in his own way.  

10. Overcome the fear of death:
We all know that one day we have to leave this world. Still we are afraid of death. We think that our spouse and children will be unable to withstand our loss. But the truth is no one is going to die for you; they may be depressed for some time. Time heals everything and they will carry on.

Regardless How Far The Journey Is OR How Capable We Are, We Do Our Best To Reach Our Goal. This Is Perseverance At Its Best ...— Anonymous 

Saturday, February 11, 2012

New-age Daughter in law




Some daughters-in-law are well trained and well mannered....

They don't come to change the family, they are here to ... ( READ ON !)



The new wife was being welcomed at the husband's home in a traditional
manner. As expected she gave a speech;
'My dear family members, I thank you for welcoming me in my new home
and family. Firstly, my being here does not mean that I want to change
your way of life, your routine ..'No, I will never do that, never in a
million years.'



'What do you mean my child?' asked the father-in-law.
'What I mean dad is (looking at her in-laws);



Those who used to wash the dishes must carry on washing them.
Those who used to do the laundry must carry on doing it.
Those who cooked should not stop at my account, AND
Those who used to clean should continue cleaning!!!



'And what are you here for?' enquired the mother-in-law.



' I'M HERE TO ENTERTAIN YOUR SON!!!!!'

Friday, February 10, 2012

Can you get along with your in laws?


Can you get along with your in laws? Is a tough question!

In my years of interacting with my clients while selling life insurance, I had encountered so many complaints between daughters in law and their husbands' parents. The young one would claim the older one being so old fashion, unfriendly, firm and unreasonable, while the older folks remarked that the younger ladies had stole their sons away from them. The confusion and conflicts in the one married family made the sons difficult to take side. The wife is important to the son, and his parents are equally important too. However when things go 'haywire' beyond control, the only solution is for the son and the wife to stay away from the elderly parents.

I have four daughters in law from two sons. Have I confused you! Yes! I had! One of my son married three times with two divorces, letting me to have two ex daughters in law from his previous marriages and one current outstanding wife. The other non playful son only married once, and his wife is my daughter in law. Add them up, I have four beautiful daughters in law. Right?

Do I have problems with all my ex and present daughters in law? No! Never! All of them love me like crazy. So! What is the secret? Before all these intelligent ladies got marry to my sons, I befriended them first. When they were in their courting stage, and they came to my house, I treated all these ladies with special attention. I won them with my heart, my kindness made them felt comfortable and I talked with the same wave length with them. Later when they married my children, I promised myself that I would love them much more than their own fathers. Though I have no daughter in my life but God have given me four wonderful daughters in law who stole my sons from me.

You must know - "Adam was the luckiest man: he had no mother-in-law" - Mark Twain quotes.

Thursday, February 09, 2012

Sex for man & money for woman....

I was down with a serious cough and fever last week. Unable to work because the coughing was very frustrating not allowing me to talk. Not forgetting that talking is my hobby. You can bar me from eating but definitely not stopping me from talking. Being my mind was still active, I used my hand phone to disturb some friends on the SMS. Sometimes handling five unlucky friends at one go. I was on full medication and yet my mind was still playful. However the only sad thing was, my little brother down there was totally down and flat. The uncomfortable physical of me had temporary reduced the size of the little brother. On normal day, especially reaching the morning dawn, I could always feel the strength of him awakening. Not the last week, poor little brother was equally sick like me. Both had to stay back at home, unproductive in every sense. 

Thanks God! On my second visit to my physician, he gave me a stronger dosage of medication which helped tremendously. The medicine allowed me to sleep through the whole night long. There was no coughing and the fever had left for good. Coming to dawn again, I had a marvellous sensational feeling. I could feel my little brother was awoke earlier than me. Boldly he stood with the erection without fail, confirming I had fully recovered from my sickness. 

Moral of the story: No man is a healthy man when he could not have a strong penile erection.

Second true story.

Madam Loo is my in law. She is 70 of age and has been a cancer patient for almost nine years. She had done twice surgeries to remove some of the tumours, countless chemotherapy sessions, experienced all types of drugs and medication to counter cancer and currently the Singapore Hospital is trying a new drug not tested before on her. Her body had gone through heavy abuses through toxic medication. Not many cancer patients could last these many treatments like her. Though she has lost a lot of weight, the lady could still survive and smile today. During the last Chinese New Year, when I was with her she told me she had received many ang pows ( red packets ) from her relatives. The biggest any pow contained 800 dollars from her niece. I asked her whether money was still important to her at the moment. Without hesitation she said it loud and clear "YES"
 

Moral of the story: As long as she still likes money, she would still be able to fight the threatful disease. I think woman likes money greater. Quote me if I am wrong!

Wednesday, February 08, 2012

See the beauty from the inside...


June is in her mid twenties, fully bloomed and is anxiously waiting for her ideal man. She hopes to get marry as soon as possible. What a dream! On phone she appealed to me whether I could introduce a handsome male to her. Introducing a friend is alright but requesting the man to be handsome is really too much!

I gave her a piece of mind. The saying goes.. The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows.

I asked June whether she has those beauties of a woman. If not, attracting another man with a golden heart is definitely out of the question. The Law of Attraction always works well. A sincere heart meets another good soul. A handsome male might not have a loving heart. Believe in your inner beauty and miracle would happen.

Tuesday, February 07, 2012

Selling tips...

There are many single mothers work as life insurance agent. Their desire to succeed is strong and their commitment is great, making them to be the top best producers in the industry. According to many of them, one of the most difficult challenge in selling is to be known as Single Mother.

Single mother is one without a husband. Either is a divorcee or a widow. When a lady agent who introduces herself as a single mother to a man, chances are the man thinks all sort of wild thought in his dirty mind. Mind my language here... Is she available! She needs a man! She doesn't like man! She must be a bossy woman! Or when the lady agent meets a man's wife or girlfriend, this woman might have the fear for knowing the agent as a single mother. Reasons could be, their men could go easy with the single mother, they might loose their men from her or temptation is uncontrollable. 

I always advise these single mother's agents this.. Why cause so much of constrain! In order to shut the mind of everyone, just say you are married and you don't need to explain. The funny thing of life is, once a woman is known to be married, no wild and fanciful imagination would be there. Business could be concluded much easier and safer to all concern.

Specially for the single mothers - “The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.” - Rajneeh

Monday, February 06, 2012

Right way to speak on phone.....

I received a telephone call from my company supportive staff. She spoke so fast that I could not understand a word she uttered. I could not believe a company like us of international status has young executives who could not speak effectively. I am sure they lacked communication skill and confidence.

I had to raise my voice to stop her from continuing to speak. I told her she was nervous and she spoke too fast. Please let me help you to improve my dear. The best way to communicate on the line is to speak slowly and clearly. Every sentence should be ended with a split second pause. The pause allows your listener to understand your explanation. Not many people have intelligent mind that could absorb words that are too lengthy. Constant stops make it easier for everyone to listen. A good speaker should know whether the listener is following the discussion. No harm in asking, "Do you catch me? or Have I confused you?" Constant practice is the sure way to improve. I hope this young lady would take heal.

Food for thought - "To speak and to speak well are two things.  A fool may talk, but a wise man speaks" ~ Ben Jonson

Sunday, February 05, 2012

Think For A Moment...




A doctor entered the hospital in hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. He answered the call as soon as possible, changed his clothes and went directly to the surgery block. He found the boy’s father going and coming in the hall waiting for the doctor. Once seeing him, the dad yelled, “Why did you take all this time to come? Don’t you know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have the sense of responsibility?”

The doctor smiled and said, “I am sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital and I came the fastest I could after receiving the call…… And now, I wish you’d calm down so that I can do my work.”

“Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies now what will you do??” said the father angrily

The doctor smiled again and replied: “I will say what Job said in the Holy Book “From dust we came and to dust we return, blessed be the name of God”. Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go and intercede for your son, we will do our best by God’s grace.”

“Giving advice when we’re not concerned is so easy,” murmured the father.

The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy.

“Thank goodness! Your son is saved!” And without waiting for the father’s reply he carried on his way running. “If you have any question, ask the nurse!!”

“Why is he so arrogant? He couldn’t wait some minutes so that I ask about my son’s state” commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.

The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: “His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was in the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery. And now that he saved your son’s life, he left running to finish his son’s burial.”
 

Saturday, February 04, 2012

My neighbour.....



She's single...
She lives right across the street.
I can see her house from my living room. 
I watched as she got home from work this evening.I was surprised when she walked across the street and up my driveway.
She knocked on my door...
I rushed to open it. She looks at me, and says, "I just got home, and I am so horny!  I have this
strong urge to have a good time, get drunk, and make love all night long! 
Are you busy tonight?" I immediately replied, "Nope, I'm free... I have no plans at all!"
Then she said, "Good!  In that case, could you watch my dog?"
 MAN...  IT'S NO FUN GETTING OLD!!!

Friday, February 03, 2012

I love my mother.....

Recently I attended a Chinese New Year gathering, specially for the old folks together with their children and sponsored by one of our local Chinese Newspaper. To qualify for the function, one of the parents of each family must be above eighty of age. There were 80 eligible senior veterans, ranging from age 80 to 101, and the total years added among them came to 6800. 

The President of the dinner related a story which was worth listening. The President is a lady who was working as a nurse when she was young. During her working experience she encountered a true incident. There was a sickly old mother who came to her hospital for regular treatment. Each time without fail, a son would accompany her. The consultations were lengthy and both mother and son had to wait for her turn. The son would also bring along a mat. While waiting he would sleep and rest on the mat. He would not complain and had all the patience to see her mother complete her visit. The eye of the son could tell he is a very kind and obedient child.

Out of curiosity, one day the nurse asked the mother whether this son was the only child in the family. Spontaneously the old lady replied, "I have 10 children. All my children are doing very well. Some have migrated and the rest have left for the cities. This is the only son who didn't do well in his study".

The nurse cried in her heart. What the world is this? Those who are educated and are successful have forgotten the word of kindness. While the one who isn't, has all the love, kindness and time for the mother. I too was crying.


Good to remember - "For the mother's sake the child was dear, and dearer was the mother for the child" - Samuel Taylor Coleridge.

Thursday, February 02, 2012

Words and understanding help a client....

Continue from yesterday posting...

Most husbands and wives argued and quarrelled in the house could be due to financial problems. Once that happened, the easy way out is to terminate insurance bills. A good insurance agent helps to resolve and provide solution to ease out matters. 

Knowing my client is always busy at their work, I sent a text message to him. It was written, "On checking you can still withdraw xxxxxk cash from your own plans together with your wife and daughters policies. If this amount can solve your immediate need, pls let me know and I would help to withdraw immediately".

Client was surprised with the savings he has with us. His reply, "Should be okay for now. Pls proceed".

RF: OK Once the cheques are out will contact you again.

Client: Thanks but I will be on leave from 10 to 22 Feb.

RF: Let me have your wife and your bank account. I would deposit cheques once they are here.

Client: Std Chart 00000007

RF: Is it joint name account.

Client:  Yes!

RF: That's a very lucky number you have there. Both account holder names will be blessed with wealth. On condition they must love each other. OK?

Client: Thanks because I do not consider you as my agent or advisor but my true and trusted friend that can confide at all times.

RF: Those words touched my heart. You really make my day.



There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
       - William Shakespeare

Wednesday, February 01, 2012

House Rules for the family...

As life insurance agent, I received such message at time...

From a client.. "I know that u are still on holiday but I would like to see your opinion. U know that I have two daughters studying at the varsities, one in Egypt. But I just found out that my wife is very calculative with regards to Finance. U know that everything is on me. What is your advice if I were to cancel all the insurances under my wife's name. Please take your time to answer me . Thanks"

Though I was abroad then, I immediately replied.. "House Rules. #1. The wife is always right. #2. What happen when wife is wrong. Follow rule #1". Second message to him... "Since your wife's policies are taken many years back, the premiums are definitely cheaper. Advise..  please don't stop. Try to bite the bullets happily. After all, they are all your loved one at home. Love them unconditionally".

Moral of the story: Husband or man should be more generous than wife or woman. Man should have a richer heart.

Poem I like... From John Wesley
Do All the good you can,
By all the means you can,
In all the places you can,
At all the times you can,
To all the people you can,
As long as ever you can.