I have many friends and some best friends. Friends seldom tell you when you are at wrong. Only best friends have the courage to do so cause they are not afraid to be offended. Although best friends offer sincere opinions when needed, male and female have different views in helping.
Just for illustrating purposes, let me give examples. If I were to relate to my male best friends that my girl friend had left me for good, and facing love sick over her, they will laugh at me. Instead they might encourage me to forget her. Or perhaps it is an ideal time to replace a fresh one. After all she isn't the only girl in town. These are remarks from men. However should I discuss this problem over with my female best friends, they might sympathise my emotion and sadness. I will be admired my them for my seriousness in love with only one lady.
Assuming at this broken hearted period of time, there are few available single ladies who might be interested in me, my male best friends will definitely encourage me to take opportunity to befriend them. If I were to tell them that I am not interested cause I still have strong feeling for my ex-lover, they will take me as a stupid fool to cry over the unfaithful mate. On the hand, if I were to relate this outcome to my female best friends, they will definitely be inspired with my true love for the one person that I love. I will be taken as a sincere gentleman for all women. I am considered a hero then.
Looking at these two episodes, man and woman have different feeling and aspiration in life. Sometimes we need to seek the right party or sex to determine the right answers. If you pick the wrongful party, you might land yourself into further problems without realising yourself. Because these are the facts of life we have to face.
This happy quote by Thich Nhat Hanh, "Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy."
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