Saturday, January 05, 2008

Lovesick is painful.

I think of all sicknesses, love sick is the most severe pain of the mind and the heart. And of all rejections, love rejection is the most unbearable rejection for mankind. When you are rejected out of love and fallen love sick, no medicine of any kind could remedy the situation. The mind will be sorrowful and the heart will be in pain. Your emotion is imbalance when everything is meaningless to you. You don't feel like working, you have no appetite for food, your personal drive decreases, you don't like to mix and you can't sleep. Definitely health will be affected and this is termed as love sick. As your heart has no happiness and no love, you see the world as ugly and unfriendly. To all my readers, try to avoid love sick at all costs.

Recently I encountered three lady friends who were facing the above suffering. The first was Shirley, a typical Chinese educated housewife who was on the verge to divorce her husband. The man neglected the wife and they quarrelled most of the time. I only knew about it, when she called me to check whether I know the address of our local Marriage Bureau. She intended to seek the bureau separation and divorce. Instead of suggesting to meet the bureau, I acted as a marriage counsellor. I was preaching the religion of love. Explaining the definition of what is true love. One important question I asked her, "Tell me frankly, deep in your heart. Do u still have the love for your man?" She was shy but replied with a yes. I told her the meaning of love. Love has plenty of patience and tolerance. Love has no jealousy and not selfish. Love is willing and caring. I continued to explain the three roles of being a woman for the man; as wife, good friend and a lover. She was only a wife to him and she had forgotten the roles of being a good friend and lover. She had never called her husband as dear, honey, darling or sweetheart. She was not romantic as a wife. How could a man loves a woman when she did not know how to love him as well. I was glad, she realised her mistakes with my simple illustration. Promptly she admitted her mistakes. Her last statement, "Thank you so much! You have saved my marriage."

The second lady was Laila who has a relationship with a man for many years. One day she called to tell me that she is leaving the country because she wanted to leave her love. She was full of sorrow and pain from the words she wrote. I begged her to read my blog before leaving. Please read under the romance column where I had written many stories on love matters. I did not know whether she read but out of my surprise, I received her messages today as:
Laila; "Thanks my dear for all the lovely words of wisdom found in your Blog really motivating. Happy New Year!"

RF; "Glad u love them. Tell me. what have u learned my dear?"

Laila; "Quite a lot in particular give more and never stop loving."

RF; "Remember...Love has magic and miracle."

Laila; "Ok! will do and thanks a million for the advice too. It has made myself realised what I have missed out in life."

RF; "I am glad u got your love again."

Laila; "Yes and having a birthday celebration with my love this evening."

Laila I am happy for you. Love has got miracle. It works only when you understand the meaning of it. Laila thought she knew at first. Not when she was enlightened by the actual definition and application of this magical word.

The third lady was Pp who was frightened out of love. She is a sweet lady who refused to be loved again. Her fear was due to bad experiences out from one marriage and another from a recent painful relationship. I sincerely beg her to read my blog again for I believe she will see some light in my words of love. In order for me to offer my confident, I write this special poem for her to read. Hopefully she believes Love has got magic and miracle.

For Pp:
It the game of love -
It doesn't really matter who won or lost.
When u think of your past love,
u may view it as a failure.
But when u find a new love,
u view the past as a teacher.
Love will always find a way.
Will always win.


Anonymous said...

You're right, lovesick is definitely the most painful thing in the world. Unrequited love, the lost of someone dear, etc can makes you really depressed. I wish I wouldn't have to experience it but I guess everyone will have to go through it somehow in their lifetime...

Robert Foo said...

Hi my dear Vicky...

I think the only way to avoid and overcome lovesick is to understand the facts of life deeper. For any thing to happen, there must be a reason. Even death. Thanks again.

ComplicatedSoul said...

sir, i am just 21 and i have seen the greatest pain tat i could ever have felt....
its unbearable....

Robert Foo said...

Hi Nick,

Sure is painful coz Love has joy and pain as well. Unless you truly understand the meaning of love. Relax, u are only 21, take life as a challenge and u wld learn. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Anonymous said...

ya lovesickness hurts the deepest. its bad bad stuff. best protect yourself goin in by adjusting your attitude knowing you are going to possibnly lose this person one way or the other. there are NO GUARANTESS in life, especially with love...

Robert Foo said...

Hi Anonymous 3 Mar 2009,

Though this title was written more than a year ago, I keep reminding myself not to be hurted in love. I might not guarantee love but I have to believe love has miracle. Thank you for reading my blog.

Anonymous said...

Lovesickness is the only medicine that really help me to lost a lots of weight... its good to get back into shape but .... argh suffer, heart broken.. just dunno where to stop and start, i feel foolish.

Robert Foo said...

Hi Anonymous 2 Jan 2010,

Mistakes are our teachers, including love mistakes. Just move on and beautiful things would come. Happy New Year to you and thank you for reading my blog.

Anonymous said...

Hello sir,
i was in love for the past 1 year,am 24 and my girl is 18.ever since i started loving her i thaught that this is the love of my life and i cant live without her.after 6 months of sincere love life there came a period of difference ,she started to avoid me...The pain was too terrible for me..i thought that was the end of my life,this continued for 2 months.aftet that i started approaching her with tears in my eyes,pleaded to take me back and she did,again we cherished lovely moments together,we huged,kissed,loved blindly....and now for the last 2 months i dont like to talk to her anymore,i just started hating her for no reason,now she is in tears,and i feel its all over dont want to continue...but i feel sorry for her ,i feel guilty of cheating her.....wat is wrong with me....please guide me...

Robert Foo said...

Hi Anonymous 6 May,

Let me share with you what is love.
Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

If you don't have them, i believe you are not fully matured as a true lover yet. Just move on with your life, i'm sure you would learn more as you gather more love experiences young man.

Thank you for reading my blog. Click onto the Romance subject on my first page and you might find more interesting acticles on love.

Tanzeel Mirza said...

I'll die..I'll die..I'll die...."m lying inside an open grave..plz someday tell her to dump soil inside it...

Robert Foo said...

Hi Tanzeel,

Love Sick is the most painful sickness of all kind, unless one knows how to handle it well.

Before going further, would like to relate the defination of love to you first.

Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

A true lover would forgive and forget his or her mate. If you can't, suggest to learn from this mistake and move on with your life. Perhaps there would be a better love in front for you. To die is the most uncourageous act of love.

Thank you for reading my blog here.

lovesickobsess said...

Not sure if you still read comments from old post, but i have been obsessed/love sick towards a particular girl its been 4 years im unable to move on with life , i lost focus in most things and only think of her mostly, i could barely contact her on facebook and she would reply if i am lucky , but she has a boyfriend and is a really nice gal that wouldnt hurt me. how do i move on? i know she can only treat me as a friend, but there might be a possibility that she loves me just that we couldnt be together because our lives arent involved with each other. How do i get over sommeone that i still have hope for?

Robert Foo said...

Hi Lovesickobsess,

All ladies like man who understands the true meaning of LOVE.

What's Love?
Love is patient, Love is kind. It doesn't envy, it doesn't boast, it is not proud, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not rejoice in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Young man, if you learn to have those qualities of love, you stand another chance to get her back in your arm again. Best of luck and please let me know the outcome. Okay?

Anonymous said...

my situation is that i came to Australia for my studies, leaving behind my g.f... who has been so close to me since last 4 years...but everything change after i came to Australia..i met with a new girl from china... within such a short period of time i couldn't believe my self that i have fallen deeply in love with my new old gf decided to come to Australia for studies too..... now that she reached hea...i lost contact with my new gf ...from that moment i have been leaving everyday under shadow of sorrow... i miss my new gf soo much ...i hurt her a lot...i notice her heart ache for me.....but lucky my old gf doesn't knows a shit about the situation...but deep inside i die everyday my new gf's memories...please help me out ...what should i do..?

Robert Foo said...

Hi 13 July,

Always follow the heart and not the mind. Heart is pure and sincere, while the mind is corrupted.

Be truthful to yourself. If your heart loves your new gf, be honest to your old gf.

Love has trust. Unless you are truthful and honest, love might not last. Good luck to you.

Love sick said...

Hi feb I have just lost my lover of 9years it's been a painful time and now she is seeing some one else the pain has turned more serve can't sleep incredible pain. I don't think it helped we had only slept together less than weeks ago.