Monday, January 28, 2008

Be a loveable & likable person.

AC wasn't a happy man. As he is my good colleague, upon seeing me, he seek my elderly advices. Upon getting marry recently, his wife and sister were not in good relationship. Previously they were staying together as one happy family. With so much conflicts, AC and his wife moved out. The misunderstanding created disturbance and inconvenient on his work. He could not link the relationship between his wife and sister.

After listening all his frustration, I began to understand the problem better. Basically all of them lacked the giving of love. True love is reflected from the heart. From the mind is selfish. Most of the time, they assumed they had given love but in fact there were motives in giving. Love should be offered without condition to gain the feeling of blissfulness. I told AC, if he wants his sister to feel proud of them, sell yourself as a lovable and likable person.

A lovable and likable person has a lot of patience. He could tolerate all misunderstanding and complaints. His heart is a forgiving one with plenty of kindness. He shares more than to receive. He will not talk bad of others but rather offer compliments. His mind is pure without ill thought and feeling of others. He is always supportive and willing to assist. He does not envy and not boastful. He will not be rude, self seeking or easily angered. Unless AC is prepared to be a lovable and likable person, he will find it difficult to win her sister back again. I sincerely hope AC would take my advices.

Food for the heart; "None of us has the power to make someone else love us. But we all have the power to give away love, to love other people. And if we do so, we change the kind of person we are, and we change the kind of world we live in." Rabbi Harold Kusher

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