Saturday, July 07, 2007

Daughters are better than sons.

Most Asian love sons more than daughters. Perhaps things have changed now. Most sons of today are playful, irresponsible and not as caring as daughters.

I had a Ceylonese friend who was so proud to have four sons at the beginning. Ceylonese are very particular with sons because when they get marry, boys would be receiving dowries from the brides. More so, if the sons are of higher status and are qualified professionals, they do receive much higher dowries and gifts. My friends sons are all doctors and when they got married, all were handsomely rewarded with gifts beyond our guesses. How I wish to be born as them!

A couple of years ago, my friend passed away. Before he left, I visited him at the hospital where I could see the only person who accompanied him then was his dear wife. Sorrowfully with a dying words the old man said, "How I wish my four sons are not sons but daughters. I would be much a happier man now."

Later from the wife, I got to know that at this moment of time, the dying father needed was love and caring. The sons had the thought for their father but they did not have the time to care for him. Their work and career had taken too much away their time to be with the father. They could send him to the best hospital and medical care but what the father wanted was the touch and words from them which they had overlooked.

Man is man! They can have the self esteem and courage to face the challenges of the world but they do not have the soft touched and care like a woman. The sons could be successful in career but to a dying father, what matter most to him at the last breath of lives was to see and feel the physical moment with their children. Could not blame him for changing his mind as to say, "How I wish to have four daughters instead of four sons."

If you have sons and no daughter, please be aware that circumstances have changed. Today daughters are more acceptable and loving than sons. If is not too late, perhaps you better try to make one now.

Agnes Repplier quote, "It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."


Anonymous said...

That was sad and sweet at the same time. I feel sad for that man, but I know what u mean. My mom has 2 sisters and 3 brothers, and the only ones who really bother looking after their father are the daughters, even though they don't live in the same country as him. Even though 2 of my uncles (her brothers) live within walking distance of their father, I guess they can't be bothered to spend much time with him.

My dad always says how luck he is to have 3 daughters (me and 2 sisters)

Robert Foo said...

Hi anonymous,

Your dad is also luckier than me coz i have three sons and no daughter. How i wish to have one!!!

Thank you for reading my blog.

Cynthia said...

At least men can now see the importance of daughters. Its because ladies think with the left side of the brain(which is considerable) while men using the right side(does action). Hence daughters are more caring than men. Learn to appreciate daughters!!

Robert Foo said...

Hi Cynthia,

I fully agreed with you my dear.

Anonymous said...

I have 3 girls and I have always wanted to have a boy. Everyone tells me how lucky I am. Heh.
Perhaps in due time I will be able to realize my fruits, or maybe in due time, God may give me the courage to try again.

Robert Foo said...

Hi 1:33

Ayah! Try one more lah.

Unknown said...

It's touching

Unknown said...

Thank you Imily