Monday, March 10, 2008

Relax & calm is different.



While waiting for an important client who was busy, I text a message to my loved one. It was written as, "Dear, I am still waiting for this Chairman since one hour ago. I have to be patience. Otherwise I may not secure the business."

My sweetheart replied,"Have more patience and u will be more calm and relax. Then u can think better. Also good for your heart." I knew she had concern for me.

With the many years in selling, I believe patience is the game to success. Patience is an attitude of the person and not a skill which could be developed over night. You have to be relaxed to be calm. When you are relaxed and calm, perhaps you might gain patience. Relax is more of a verb with meaning; to relieve from tension or strain. Where else, calm is more of a noun. Exact meaning is peaceful and undisturbed. You might be relaxing but not necessary you could be calm. When you are calm, you don't need to relax coz calmness is a stage of peace and undisturbed. A spiritual person is calm with blissfulness and holiness. An agressive man might not have calmness. He needs to relax first to gather calmness. You can try to learn to understand yourself to relax but is not easy to learn calmness in yourself. If you could relax and reach calmness, then patience of the mind might be developed.

For those who sell, learn to relax first and calmness of inner self would enhance your patience to success. For those who are in love, you need all the patience to win over your partners. So for my dear, you should have told me,"Relax and be calm. Then your patience with be there. U will think better and also good for your heart."

Lao Tzu said, "Do you have patience to wait till your mind settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving till the right action arises by itself?

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